When it comes to teaching kids how to pick up after themselves and
how to participate in making the house a home where everyone wants to be,
remember that being consistent is the most important aspect. There are many
ways to make chores and tasks rewarding for them, just remember that once you
set up a system, it is important to make you (and your child) to stick with it,
even when it's only been two weeks. If you can get to a preset date with
consistency, you have a better chance of teaching your child 1) how to do hard
things, and 2) how to push through and have the reward be that they completed
their chores.
Recently, I really didn't have
time to help my youngest (who I know can do most everything by herself, but did
I mention she's the youngest?) and I just reminded her that she cannot be free
to play until her chores and basic getting ready is completed. It was really
nice to get a reaction that did not involve reminding and pleading and begging,
but instead she just went, slowly but surely, down the list of things she
needed to get done and asked for help with only one or two things. Once again I
could feel the payoff of sticking to my guns and trying to be consistent. Being
consistent is hard, but the rewards, even years later, do come and make all the
difference. I am 100% certain that she will whine and complain about chores
again, and again, but she is remembering that I generally don't back down and
it is getting easier to remind her about that.
I have done paper charts, velcro-move-the-pieces-from-one-side-to-another charts, electronic charts....it does not really matter so much what you use, as long as it works for you and your child and you stick with it.
I have done paper charts, velcro-move-the-pieces-from-one-side-to-another charts, electronic charts....it does not really matter so much what you use, as long as it works for you and your child and you stick with it.
(Move the tools from one side to the toolbox)
A book with pictures of the kid doing the chores you want them to do. You can be as elaborate or simple as you want.
You are the best source for learning how to be consistent in your child's life. Give them the gift of self-satisfaction for a job well done.
I completely agree! (That doesn't mean I'm very good at it, but I'm learning!)
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